Listening to Shame – Brené Brown
Brené Brown has been an inspiration for me and in moments of self-doubt or fear of judgement, I turn to her the Theodore Roosevelt quote, which she often refers to.
It motivates me to forget the doubt and fear and just take action!
THE MAN IN THE ARENA
It’s not the critic who counts;
not the man who points out how the
strong man stumbles, or where the doer
of deeds could have done them better.
The credit belongs to the man who is
actually in the arena, whose face is
marred by dust and sweat and blood;
who strives valiantly; who errs,
who comes up short again and again,
but who does actually strive to do the deeds
who knows great enthusiasms and great devotions;
who spends himself in a worthy cause;
who at best knows the triumph of high achievement and
who at worst, if he fails, does so daring greatly
Theodore Roosevelt
At the root of many people’s issues, even physical symptoms, are fear of failure and fear of judgement, once these limiting beliefs are removed, a person’s potential is unleashed.
Brené is an expert on shame. She says:
‘Shame drives 2 big tapes: “you’re not enough” and if you can talk yourself out of that one, “who do you think you are?” ‘
This is so true for many people and these are beliefs that are holding so many of us back. We often aren’t even aware of it, because they are so deeply ingrained in our subconscious. RTT helps people identify, reframe and then free themselves of these limiting beliefs.
In fact, Marisa Peer, founder of RTT, has coined the phrase “I am enough”. She says that in all her many years of treating clients, she finds that whatever the presenting issue (even if it’s physical), the real driving force behind it will be one of 3 beliefs:
I am not enough
I want something that will never be available to me
I am different and I can’t connect
Brené states that shame is highly correlated with addiction, depression, violence, aggression, bullying, suicide and eating disorders.
Again, this points to the fact that in order to treat these things effectively and permanently, we need to look at the beliefs about ourselves which drive shame – namely: “I am not enough” and “who do you think you are?”
RTT does exactly that….and fast.
You don’t have to live with shame, fears and self-destructive beliefs – just make the choice to change and DO IT!